It has been a long time since I used this blog for anything other than some rant about philosophy or economics, ands it’s not with more of the same that I return.
I’m returning to let everyone know my story from the past 9 months or more. It is not a tale I have been looking forward to telling as it is all rather humiliating but its an open wound that I need to sew up, and whether you agree with my telling this story or not, it is my story and I will tell it because it happened to me and I have a right to express it how I like.
Theres a man in Tenerife who destroyed my life. This man is quite a public figure on the island in respect to the entertainment industry as he works in a family orientated karaoke bar called Springers. There was even a recent article about him in the English printed Canarian Weekly (CW issue 911 page 37). From his Facebook page he comes across as a nice character. The kind of nice person that works in a family pub. A person you are comfortable with your family being around.
You see the thing is, I don’t see that because what I know of Jamie Daley is this: he destroyed my family and separated my two children from their parents. If you know me at all then you will know that I am one of those pesky peaceful parents, so im going to see any act from a person, that could have terrible consequences to a childs wellbeing, as morally and ethically corrupt.
Jamie came into my world through my partner, now ex partner. He engaged in an online affair that involved the exchange of sexual messages/pics with my partner in the months of January and February of this year. How did he meet my partner you may ask? well in nov/dec of last year my family were patrons at Springers. That family pub that he works at. I was still in the UK working. It was just my partner and our two daughters along with grandparents and aunties. Springers is a family pub but it seems it’s not so safe an environment for all families.
The humiliating part in all of this, is I knew. Id seen her messages briefly in both those months so I was aware I just didn’t have the guts to do anything about it, thinking it was a silly fling (11 year itch). The less I say about that the better.
The reason this all started was because my partner and her sister decided to plan for a weekend away to Tenerife in March. It actually fell on my birthday. So when I saw the messages I kinda figured something was going to happen. She was either going to keep it secret and show some discretion or she was going to dump me so she could vainly attempt to say she didn’t cheat because she didn’t do anything until after she left me. (whispers – it’s still cheating!) well it was only three-week difference! She chose the latter option and dumped me on the pretext of an argument about £100.
So she arrives in Tenerife and Jamie decides he would announce to the bar that “this is my girlfriend for the weekend” The patrons of the bar were not to know that she had just dumped her partner of 11 years and split a family up with two children in it for a dirty weekend in Tenerife. How could they possibly know that Jamie had been meddling with a family for the last 4/5 months and broke it up by his actions, all for a weekend of sex!
I can say he did it just for sex with authority because in April the family returned again to Tenerife for another family holiday but before they arrived I sent a message to Jamie on Facebook. I explained who I was and I told him that I knew everything that happened in January and February and March. I asked him to keep a respectable distance from my children if he was planning on seeing my ex while the family was on holiday and asked him to restrict his activities with her, to just him and her. I asked him that if she should ask for him to come over to the apartment for some sex, could he ask her to go to his, because I didn’t fancy having to deal with a traumatized child having walked in on his fat Geordie backside ploughing into their mother on the kitchen counter or bathroom sink. I tried a bit of humour there. You may think I had no business asking anything of him but MY children were there so I had every damn right to ask!
His response 24 hours later: ……..I’m not interested in her, not that way pal…….If I were interested I would have been down the bar last night….
This tells me that he was only interested in her for sex. Let that sink in for a moment because I had to. He had happily participated in a series of actions for nearly 5 months that directly led to the destruction of MY family that were regular patrons in his family bar to have sex with the mother of that family!
Did Tenerife run out of single tourists last year?
There is more after that but it is irrelevant to the narrative and simply becomes gossip. The story I’ve been telling has enough information to allow for anyone to form a more realistic opinion of Jamie Daley. It doesn’t matter what you thought of him before or if you don’t know him and this is the first you have heard of him. The story I have told is 100% accurate and can be backed up with the messages if required. Publication of the messages is quite unnecessary unless there is a denial from Jamie.
I’ll be sending Jamie a copy of this before I publish it because it has his name in it and I want to see if I will indeed need to publish that content. This is a true story for those of you who are sceptical. He is on FaceBook as Jamie Daley, he works in Arona Tenerife. A simple search on FaceBook brings him up as the first result.
For now good-bye. my next post will be a rant about something philosophical and not this doom and gloom which I just had to get off my chest
Just a side note: with the exception of that holiday in April I have seen my children everyday. I either collect them up from school bring them home and cook them tea or I have taken them to school. I also had them every weekend and continue to do so. I am a very devoted father who has and will do everything in my power to mitigate the disruption to my children’s lives that I know would have occurred were I not to behave as a good dad should.
Disposable I am not!
Update: I recieved a response from Jamie Daley post publication.
“Mate just fuck off you nob Ps not read any of your shit it has nowt to do with me”
Not the words I would have chosen but a response none the less.
Update: I have contacted the owner of the Bar and Jamies Daleys employer, a Mr Eddie Marzella. I was able to find him through a friend of his who I originally thought was the owner. This person contacted Mr Marzella and told him I wished to make contact. Mr Marzella informed this friend I should contact him through facebook which is strange as he is now ingnoring my requests for a dialogue. I am looking for a comment on the conduct of his employee, that is all. I was going to incorporate a hyperlink to the persons facebook pages but it seems that Mr Daley has now blocked me, I can only assume, because he does not wish me to let his multitude of Facebook friends know the truth about him. I have informed Mr Marzella that I will be naming him and his establishment as Mr Daleys employer in this article and ALL FUTURE PUBLICATIONS. If Mr Marzella provides a comment it will be added to the article.
Update: A very interesting twist from my update yesterday. After contacting the owner of Springers and Jamie Daleys employer asking for a comment, which im still waiting for, not only did Jamie Daley block me on facebook be he refriended my Ex-partner. The fact that they are now friends again on facebook after friending and unfriending so many times at this point does intrigue me. Considering his treatment of her earlier this year it says more about her character then his really. Not quite sure what the purpose of this action or its ramification will be seen as.